What to do if your child is Bullying

1. Establish that bullying is taking place.

Check for warning signs that your child may be using bullying behaviour.

2. Provide help at home.

  • Establish a basic code of conduct by setting rules at home.
  • Challenge any aggressive behaviour and insist that it is unacceptable.
  • Explain clearly how bullying behaviour such as taunting, teasing or threatening can upset others.
  • Spend time with your child.
  • Talk to them about what is acceptable behaviour and how to respect others e.g. asking instead of taking things, turn-taking in activities and in conversation.
  • Be aware of where your child is at all times, who they are with and what activities they are engaged in.
  • Monitor their behaviour and their friendships closely.
  • When it comes to an accusation, deal with your child in a sensitive, caring manner and consider the following approach to dealing with an accusation.

3. Co-operate with the school

  • Minor bullying incidents are usually dealt with immediately by teachers or tutors. However the principal or deputy principal may wish to make an appointment with the parents/guardians of a person bullying to discuss more serious occurrences.
  • Although you may be upset at having to go to the school to discuss a bullying situation, it is best to remain calm and adopt a problem-solving approach in order to work together successfully with the school. Avoid making negative remarks about the school or the teachers in front of your child.
  • Prepare for the meeting by having full details about the incident from your child. Check if the school has an anti-bullying policy which will explain the procedures and how incidents are dealt with.