1. Establish that bullying is taking place.

Check for warning signs that your child may be using bullying behaviour.

2. Provide help at home.

• Establish a basic code of conduct by setting rules at home.
• Challenge any aggressive behaviour and insist that it is unacceptable.
• Explain clearly how bullying behaviour such as taunting, teasing or threatening can upset others.
• Spend time with your child.
• Talk to them about what is acceptable behaviour and how to respect others e.g. asking instead of taking things, turn-taking in activities and in conversation.
• Be aware of where your child is at all times, who they are with and what activities they are engaged in.
• Monitor their behaviour and their friendships closely.
• When it comes to an accusation, deal with your child in a sensitive, caring manner and consider the following approach to dealing with an accusation.

3. Co-operate with the school

• Minor bullying incidents are usually dealt with immediately by teachers or tutors. However the principal or deputy principal may wish to make an appointment with the parents/guardians of a person bullying to discuss more serious occurrences.
• Although you may be upset at having to go to the school to discuss a bullying situation, it is best to remain calm and adopt a problem-solving approach in order to work together successfully with the school. Avoid making negative remarks about the school or the teachers in front of your child.
• Prepare for the meeting by having full details about the incident from your child. Check if the school has an anti-bullying policy which will explain the procedures and how incidents are dealt with.